“Strive
for the greater gifts. And I will show
you a still more excellent way…”
(1 Corinthians 12:31)
First, I share
my apology to those of you who have been waiting patiently (or perhaps not so patiently) for your new Pastor to
share his thoughts (as promised during worship this past Sunday) on the June 26th
Supreme Court ruling that all states must allow same-sex marriages. If you’ve ever moved to a new town and had to
start from scratch getting to know new people in a new job, then you understand
that the demands on one’s time from the new environment are sometimes greater
than anticipated or planned.
Nevertheless, here at long last is my promised response.
I should
begin by stating that those who know me well know that I am not easily swayed or
impressed by passionate politics or theology, one way or another. So, if you are reading this blog looking for either
a scathing diatribe against the Supreme Court’s decision, or excited support
for it, I’m afraid you will be disappointed.
Instead, like what I think you’ll find with most United Methodist congregations
(including our own), I find my own thoughts mixed.
On the one
hand, the ruling affirms what I hope and pray we all know and understand to be biblically
true: that all persons – gay, lesbian, bisexual, straight, black, white, red,
yellow, mixed, male, female, transgendered, Democrat, Republican, Independent,
conservative, progressive, rich, poor, middle class -- are of sacred worth, and
deserve to be treated with respect and justice, especially under the law of our
land. In like manner, the ministry and
teachings of Jesus himself affirm that his Church (of which LaGrange 1st
UMC is a part) should be a place where all God’s children are welcome. Jesus did not place limits on whom he
welcomed, and neither should we. On the contrary, Jesus intentionally welcomed
those who society often shunned and shut out, and consequently, our doors should
likewise be open to any and all who seek God through our ministries, regardless
of their race, gender, status, sexual orientation, or marriage preference. Baptism, Communion, funerals, and Confirmation
continue to be open and available to all
people.
On the other
hand, even though the ruling affirms what two-thirds of Americans now believe
about same-sex relationships, it should be noted that Christians do not
determine our morals or ethics either by public opinion polls or by court
decisions. The Supreme Court, after all,
is charged with interpreting the U.S. Constitution, not the Bible. The Court is not asked to discern God’s will,
or what constitutes moral or ethical behavior for Christians (nor does this
ruling profess to do that). As a
practical matter, then, this ruling does not affect current church teachings or
practice at all: all churches and clergy
still maintain their First Amendment right to participate in or perform a
marriage only if they elect to do so, and clergy in any tradition still have
the legal right to decline performing a wedding for whatever reason, as they do
now. The ruling likewise does not change
the official stance of the United Methodist Church on these subjects – only our
United Methodist General Conference (meeting next May 2016) has the power to do
that. As such, even though same-sex
marriages are now legal, UM clergy at present cannot perform them, nor do we
ordain “self-avowed, practicing
homosexuals.” Though there are many
who wish to change these policies in the future, at present they are still
church law.
Still, if
anything, this ruling has again revealed how divided we are as a United Methodist
church and as God’s people over questions such as these. Deeply committed Christians hold firmly and
passionately to both sides of this
debate, and demonstrate how it is possible for faithful Christians to interpret
scripture differently on these issues.
Within our own congregation, there are those who have strong opinions about
one view or its opposite.
So, yes,
there are many dimensions about these subjects on which we can disagree. That is inevitable: any time one opens up a controversial topic
to a roomful of people, you’ll have a roomful of opinions. Yet, I can’t help but wonder if there is not a
better way to address these issues than merely arrogantly asserting our own
opinions and the “correctness” of our own positions (quoting from the Bible, of
course!), as we are so fond of doing. I
can’t help but wonder if there is a “more
excellent way” (as Paul puts it in the scripture above) than fighting and
posturing over issues that (while important), may not lie at the heart of Christianity.
Two quotes
from John Wesley, the founder of Methodist Christianity, may be helpful here: “As to all opinions which do not strike at
the root of Christianity, we think and let think” (from Wesley’s tract “The Character of a Methodist”); and “Although a difference in opinions… may
prevent an entire external union, yet need it prevent our union in affection?
Though we cannot think alike, may we not love alike? May we not be of one
heart, though we are not of one opinion? Without all doubt, we may. Herein all
the children of God may unite, notwithstanding these smaller differences. These
remaining as they are, they may forward one another in love and in good works” (from
Wesley’s sermon “Catholic Spirit”). Wesley’s point (and Paul’s in his
description of love as the “more
excellent” way) is that rather than focusing on the things that divide us
(the minority of things over which we
disagree), as Christians should we
not focus on the majority of things
which unite us, and “agree to
disagree” (or as Wesley said, “think and
let think”) about the rest? In times
of controversy, should we not focus on what binds us together, rather than what keeps us apart?
With that in
mind, I want to wrap up my own words about this issue with the words from
another UM clergy colleague (Rev. Jeremy Troxler of Spruce Pine UMC) whose response
to this ruling I found especially helpful – words that I cannot improve upon
but feel compelled to repeat here:
“The Bible says that the church is
like a family, where we are brothers and sisters with each other. If your family is like mine, then there are a
lot of important things that you and your family members disagree about or even
fight about. But at the end of the day
you are still a family; you are still held together by something deeper than
whether or not you agree. You are held
together by the fact that you have been made part of one another, and you are
held together by stubborn, durable, steady love.
The church is a family like that. We are a family that can disagree about
important things, but at the end of the day we are held together by something
deeper than the fact we agree about everything, or even about every important
thing: we are held together by the fact
that God’s grace has rescued us and is remaking us and has made us a part of
one another. We are held together by love, the love of Christ.
That love does not banish
disagreement, but it does join us in a oneness deeper than all difference, a
fidelity more enduring than our fights, a reconciliation that outlasts our
wrongs.
Perhaps we even need some level of
disagreement for this love to grow among us…. Perhaps God has God’s own
purposes in putting us very different people, with our dueling Facebook posts
and our rival news sources, all together next to each other in the pew. Perhaps one of those purposes is to learn the
meaning of love. Perhaps it is only by
learning to love people we disagree with, only by learning to love people who
we know are wrong, only by learning to love sinners that we learn what love,
Christ-like love, even, yes, married love, really is.
In 1 Corinthians 12, we find the
Apostle Paul writing to a divided church about how we are all part of the body
of Christ, a body where the eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of
you,” nor can the head say to the feet, “I have no need of you.” We are a body, where, paraphrasing what the
Bible says about marriage, the many become one flesh. Here’s what I think that
means: [And
I (Pastor Brian) would affirm these words to those of you reading my blog, as
well…]
● If you celebrated on Friday [when the Supreme Court ruling was
announced], you belong here and are
needed here [at our church].
● If you were upset on Friday, you belong
here and are needed here.
● If you didn’t know how to feel on
Friday, you belong here and are needed here.
● If you think what I have said here
is too wishy-washy, and you wish your preacher took a stronger stand with your
side today, you belong here and are needed here.
The only way you might not belong here
is if you believe the body of Christ should be a place where everybody agrees
with you 100%, and where what you hear from the pulpit every week should just
confirm whatever you came here already believing; basically if you think the
body should be made up of one part: your
brain. I would say that if that’s what you want, the only way to get it is if
you keep your own company…. Perhaps if
you searched hard enough you might finally be able to find another group of
believers who agree with each other on things like this 100% – but if you do,
whatever it is, it won’t be the church of Jesus Christ.
So I guess we’ll just have to accept
God’s own mysterious purposes and continue struggling to seek God’s
bigger-than-we-thought will with each other. I guess we’ll have to weep with
those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice, even all at the same time,
even if it means we try to force a smile through our tears because at least our
friends are happy, of if it means we celebrate but with a catch in our throat
because we can’t totally forget those who find it hard to rejoice with us
because of conscience.
I guess we’ll have to stay together
and try to respect and love each other and fail and ask forgiveness and forgive
and then try again.” [See
citation below]
Amen, Pastor
Troxler! The way of love IS God’s more
excellent way. It’s not easy, and it’s
not what the rest of the world would do, but it’s what we’re called to do and
be as God’s people. I look forward to
seeking ways we can do this together as your new Pastor! Always remember that God loves you and I do,
too!
[NOTE: For more reading about this subject,
including sources from which my thoughts have been shaped and formed, I invite you
to read the articles in the following links:
